After divorce, why do I feel like I don't know who I am anymore?

 This was a statement made to me in a  private online conversation I had with another woman who is newly divorced.  She feels really alone and empty inside she told me.  She had been married a very long time and she initiated the divorce, because she was receiving no emotional support or intimacy in the marriage.  One assumes her husband was similarly unfilled in the marriage, as he was as equally disconnected.  She told me she cries a lot.  She said people tell her to "find herself", and she doesn't really know how to do that.  She might not even know what they mean by that.  

I could feel her deep loneliness.  She said she wants someone to hug her and remind her that she's lovable.  Her big issue is knowing and loving herself. 

I told her the following:

Finding yourself is about reflecting on your choices and the beliefs/emotions that drove those choices.  You already took a big step in asking for a divorce.  You may be feeling an identity crisis because you defined yourself by being someone's wife and/or someone's mother.  When that happens...when your thoughts and energies are directed towards everyone else and not yourself, it's easy to lose touch with the core of who you are.  The real you is the observer of your life....the observer of your thoughts, beliefs and emotions.  If your husband was withdrawn, it might be because you gave away too much of yourself.  It's easy to lose touch with the core of who you are when all thoughts and energies are focused on everyone but you.    If your husband was withdrawn, it might be because you gave away too much of yourself. Who were you before you met him?  What about you attracted him?  Did you give something away for the sake of the relationship?  Career? Other aspirations?  Did you cease being the person you were when you met him?  A desire for a man to hold you...a desire for a man to make you feel complete....this all stems from your own lack of wholeness and completeness. 

All of us go into a relationship or marriage with a certain self concept.  And many of us go into it as injured beings.  It's hard to escape childhood unscathed by dysfunctional family dynamics, school yard bullying or some other emotionally traumatizing event.  We think we heal from it, and move onwards, but those emotional wounds stick with us.  They even change our self concept.  If you were bullied like I was, then maybe you became your biggest critic.  Maybe your inner voice was one who called yourself dumb for not knowing a particular fact. Maybe you looked in the mirror and saw how huge your nose was or criticized every thigh dimple or roll of fat. Maybe you thought of yourself as clumsy or unintelligent.  Worst of all, maybe you felt unlovable and invisible.  These self concepts are false!  Yet we carry this into relationships thinking these thoughts and feelings have no bearing on it.  That's not true.

 In the beginning of all relationships, we project our own image on to them of who we believe they are.  We don't actually know much about them, but we fill in the gaps with imagined positive traits.  We often idealize him, and blind ourselves to any behaviors that don't fit the picture we paint.   Some of us fall hard for that idealized image.  The same can be true in the other direction.  The truth is, the relationship we engage in is our own projected image of the other person (and not the real person they are).   This can last, weeks, months, years and many decades.  Over time, one side or the other (often both) don't live up to that image, but we become fixed in the habit of the relationship.  Sometimes we drift apart, but still live together, fearful of change.

In every relationship, there's a power dynamic.  I once read a book called "The Passion Trap".  

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The author suggested that the person who loves least possess the most power in the relationship.  He said that insecurity and attraction are closely connected.  When we fall in love deeply (in love with our projected image of the other), we might become so addicted to that love....we sometimes lose ourselves.  Our thoughts, feelings emotions might even become fixated on that other person.  A few of us might even become obsessive.  Then every time he doesn't call, or indicates that maybe he doesn't care, some of us may become acutely triggered.  Our insecurities flare. We chase.  We become the one who always calls, texts or seeks.   Our fears heightened, as we frantically seek to avoid abandonment.  Those abandonment fears....those feelings are so scary and so uncomfortable.  Yet, when we chase the other to avoid feeling abandoned and needing reassurance, there's a sense of shame too.  We don't want to be this needy and weak person.  Sometimes, we even hate ourselves for our own behaviors.

The author is right.  The more aloof person has power in the relationship.  The more we get pushed away, the tighter we cling and chase.  He might feel smothered....need space.  Then we get hurt by that. A lot of time our partners hate being under the microscope and being placed on a pedestal they know is unrealistic.  They fell in love with a woman, and she's no longer there....her thoughts and energy are all about the him.  Where did she go?  How did she get so lost?

The author of the passion trap refers to the more powerful person is the "one up" and the less powerful person as the "one down".  A lot of people, myself included, have seen both sides of that equation.  Honestly, it sucks to be on either side.  I hated being the one up person.  Every thing I did was scrutinized.  I felt under the microscope.  Every mood I had was assumed to mean things it didn't. Being the one up person is equally bad as being the one down person.  Yet, how do we fix it?

The author's remedy is wrong.  The author said that the one up person needs to power through their need for space and provide reassurance to the one down person.  They need to pay extra attention and be more loving.  That is not the answer.  The reason the one down person is in that position is because she does not love herself.  She is not holding herself in high regard. There's emotional scars there that need to come out and be examined.  She has to self reflect and take a look at the injured version of herself.  Was it childhood bullying?  Did a parent routinely insult him or her?  What was it that caused the insecurity or injury?  Recalling the times one has gotten hurt is helpful, because those feelings need to be felt (a good cry is very healing).   She needs to learn to sooth her own emotions. Hug that version of herself (mentally) and then reframe the story.  Is the injury even real?  Was the taunt or insult true?  Most of the time, the people who hurt us are actually acting on their own pain, and it's not even about us.  So, reframe that story and repaint that picture.  She also needs to take a long hard look at her self talk.  Is she routinely insulting to herself?  Does she call herself "stupid" or "clumsy" or "lazy"?  It needs to stop, because she's none of those things.  She, as the one down person, needs learn from his/her triggers.  Doing an exercise called "So, then what?" can help.

In the "yeah, so then what" exercise.... let's say I'm triggered about being late to work and I get really upset, the exercise goes like this...

Me:  I'm angry because I'm late to work

Also me;  So, what then?

Me:  I've been late a number of times

Also me:  So, then what?

Me:  I might get a bad review

Also me: So then what?

Me:  I might lose my job

Also me:   So, then what?

Me:  I can't pay my mortgage and become homeless

This tells me I have an irrational fear of lack and need to examine where that might have come from.  And I need to figure out a way to heal that and create a new belief in myself that money flows my way and I don't need to worry about it.

Women who lose themselves in their relationship would do well with this exercise when it comes to triggers.  Triggers are truly a gift!!  Use them well, because they teach you about you.

The prescription in the passion trap is wrong, because the relationship will always struggle until she learns to love herself.  He partner cannot do that for her.  It has to come from within.  Using the "So then what" exercise is one way for her to examine her wounding patterns.

I'll be writing more on this topic, so stay tuned.

In the meanwhile, if you're in the need for yoga clothes, please visit and support my store:  www.chemistalchemist.com

Changing the nature of my blog towards women's empowerment - no longer all about me

 Originally, I thought my fellow scientists out there might be interested in the trials and tribulations of starting a little online store.  It's not as easy as it seems (nothing is).

Starting a blog was one bit of advice I found, but it's the nature of the blog that matters. Because people search for solutions to their problems.

If there's one theme of all my activities, I'd like it to be women's empowerment.  Maybe my blog should be geared toward problems women need to solve.  I think 90% of it would be around money or relationships, but mindset matters to both.

I don't need to teach manifestation per se.  Mindset matters no matter what.  Addressing fears.  Learning how to feel calm.  Getting connected with one's self.  All female empowerment derives from being centered and connecting to our inner self. 

On the relationship side, women need to understand energy dynamics within a couple.  I can explain more in future posts.  

Why will writing about this help my store?  Because google searches are about problem solving.  No one cares about setting up a POD business quite honestly.  They do care about why they feel so shitty in their relationship though.  They care about why earning money is so challenging.  They care about how they're feeling on any given day.

I don't know if what I write will help anyone.  And maybe as a bonus, they visit my store to look for yoga clothes and maybe (if I find the right drop shipper) meditation pillows.  But, I don't care of my blog drives them to the store or not.  Because if anything I write helps anyone, it'll be worth it.

New site design is done!

 It looks so much more professional!!  This should help me gain some credibility and traction.  It's not yet published.  There's one thing that needs fixing. 

I'm psyched!

Here's the two things I am manifesting.  Good steady sales.  I recognize the economy is bad right now.  Consumer spending has slowed.  The good news is that it's not dead.  And it's the holiday season.  Also, people are boycotting Amazon and other big retailers more and more.  Also, I might be able to make sales on the science side for now, because I have novelty items. 

I really need test prints of my productions, so I can see how the quality is.  This is the next step.  I had ordered a lot but unfortunately, they were delivered to my old address, which means going to Massachusetts.

I have mixed feelings about coaching divorced women.  I'd like to coach manifestation.  That was my original wish.  I took the HIC program which was helpful, but I don't like the marketing and social media side of the equation.  I would like clients to flow naturally to me. Divorced women do need help and I'd like to help them.  It's very likely that most don't believe in manifestation.  As I see the activity on social media groups, most divorced women are stressed and scared (in the beginning at least).  Even after the dust has settled, they're often lonely (not everyone) or they're just trying to get through the day.  Many women are stressed or anxious about money.  I've been surprised at the number of women who were stay at home mom's.  I was raised to maintain my financial independence.  My mom was raised by a widowed mother and felt it important to be able to be financially independent. 

I found a manifestation program online, based on Reality Transfurfing, which I really love.  I can see Owen's business (the owner) is growing well and he seems really busy.  I'll ask him if I can work for him (as a contractor), where I coach for him and he gets half (or so) of the proceeds, because he does the marketing and sales.  I have no idea if I am right about his being so busy, but it sure seems so.  I'd have to earn his trust.  I'd have to do an in depth program with him to insure I have the principles down, and then apprentice under him, so he can insure that I hold to his coaching standards.  All assumptions on my part.  We will see.

I really need test prints of my productions, so I can see how the quality is.  This is the next step.  I had ordered a lot but unfortunately, they were delivered to my old address, which means going to Massachusetts.

11/11/25 I just realized what my problem is....and of course, it's me

 I've manifested opportunities for myself.  The job interview I had in late May came to me through strange coincidences (synchronicities), which are primary evidence of manifestation. Plus I experienced some incredible synchronicities around it.  At first I thought, "is this what the universe wants for me?" and then later realized I had manifested it.

Here's why...

At the time (in spring), my former co-workers were getting jobs.  My former boss went to a new start up.  I started living vicariously through them.  I missed the science and I missed the industry.  These emotions went into the universe and delivered to me what I ordered....a job opportunity... It brought me what I wanted with ease.  Then I started to doubt.  Especially the job.  It was big pharma. The job was high throughput antibody  production.  The company seemed gray, lifeless and there was no joy.  Everyone was stressed and every smile seemed forced.  The minute doubt creeped in, I then undermined it for myself.  The same was true of another opportunity. 

So, what do I really want?  I do want freedom.  But I also was proud of being a scientist.  I was proud to be a Director and I was really happy doing it. It has it's downsides...there's always work place politics.  These are "pendulums" in the world of manifestation.  A pendulum is an "us versus them"  with drama kind of dynamic and we become ego identified with it.  I do recall that there can be some weird rewards systems when living within a pendulum.  The drama itself is addicting.  However, it's really not helpful as it takes away from being our own person.  We become inauthentic by being part of a group rather than being an individual (our true self). 

In a moment of weakness, I applied once again for the job at Manifold.  It's at a VP level.  Why did I not manifest this?  Self doubt of course.  I'm a non-PhD scientist.  And that's a high level.  As soon as I doubt myself, then the world reflects this back to me.  Still, having that job would make me proud of myself.  I'd make very good money.  The downside is not enjoying much free time and not living where I want to live.  These are huge tradeoffs.  

In the end though, in all job related circumstances, I've cared way too much about outcomes.  I applied at Manifold many times.  I never heard a word back.  I know in my heart it was the doubt I was feeling.  I also saw the team there... very high powered.  I was intimidated.  Today,  I applied at Manifold again, but I got a feeling of peace when I decided I did not care one iota if I ever heard from them. 😆  Because, then I have the freedom to pursue whatever venture I want.  

Am I caring too much about my businesses too?   Absolutely!

So, what's going in my head around each of my businesses.  It's attachment to outcome.  I was asked by my helper at Fiverr about policies around returns.  In my head, my mind is replying "I don't know" and I got a bit anxious. What made me anxious?  Fear about customers not liking my product?  Fear about handling returns?   

I also have fears around coaching.  I like the idea of helping people, but I really don't like having to hustle on social media.  Will I be trapped on that treadmill of social media posting?  It feels like work to me when I want the things I do to feel like play. This signals a misalignment of sorts.  But I also think I fear not being helpful to divorced women.  I am also offering something I'm not sure they're seeking.  Many divorced women may not want to let go of their resentments and pain.  Key to manifestation is to give up ever feeling like a victim because everything in your life is something you created.  But women who are in pain might not want to take responsibility for their lives.  Indeed, it may be their soul's plan to stay in that place for a while.  I have to trust that if this is the case, they'd not be inclined towards me anyway.   My ego mind creates a lot of fears based on nothing.  And all these fears are attachment related. 

Fears are attachment to outcome.  By definition, I'm imagining some bad result and am fearful of that result.  So, going back to my store....someone returns an item they don't like.  I don't have to care if they didn't like it. It depends on the reason I suppose.  If the design were bad, they wouldn't buy it.  If the quality is off, I can seek out another POD provider for it.   If it's a defective print, then I'll take it back.  If the size is off, I can clarify how the sizes run to minimize returns.  If it's that they just don't like it, then they'll have to eat the cost, like so many items of clothing I've bought in the past.  It's not a big fucking deal!  I can try to make my items so that customers will be satisfied but not so hung up on that it gives me fear.

For my coaching, yes, I don't like the social media hustle.

I'm taking a Skool program to strengthen my knowledge around Vadim's book, Reality Transurfing.  This is the book that inspired me to coach, but taking the HIC program was what changed it to helping divorced women.  But, I've noticed that the guy teaching the skool program has a booming business and I suspect he has a lot of clients.  Would he be willing to train me in his coaching program?  And we split the proceeds fo his overflow clients?  I meet with him on December 4th.  I'd love ask him.  Because that would take away all the things I don't like, and keep the things I do like.  I don't mind changing what I do, if it feels right in my heart.  

So, yes....there's always a certain amount of...."why did I not see my attachment sooner?".  Its a basic rule. I dismissed it as being out of my element and fears are natural when doing something new!  I did not look as deep as I should have. 

No wonder this all seems like work, when it should seem like play.  When you play, you don't care what happens.  When you work, you care, and often you care too much!

Becoming a coach for divorced women who want to rebuild their lives - my actions for moving forward.

 11/10/25

When I started down the coaching path, I trained in health and wellness.  I unfortunately found that uninspiring.  Then I stumble on to the book Reality Transurfing and that inspired something inside me.  The book is about conscious reality creation.  All of us, whether or not we know, create our reality.  I don't just mean the actions we take when we pursue our personal life paths (like marriage) or we go into our careers/professions.  We actually manifest all the opportunities.  Someone knows someone else that connects us with another person to get the job, the spouse or the opportunity.  We act like it's all an accident when it's no such thing.  Your thoughts, desires and emotions created those connections.  Nothing happens by chance.  And the world is our mirror.  It reflects back to us all our beliefs.  Then we use confirmation bias which feeds back into our self belief system.

If a person believes that making money is a struggle, they will manifest poorly paying jobs (as one example) and then they will confirm for themself that making money is a struggle and the belief feeds itself until they break the pattern.  We even manifest good or bad relationships depending on what we believe about ourselves.  If we are insecure or feeling unworthy, we will attract someone with similar feelings about himself or herself.  If each party is insecure, the relationship will likely have challenges.  It sets the stage for exploitation, toxic behaviors or co-dependency.  However, if one finds herself in a place of high self regard and self love (in a non-narcissistic way), then she will attract a person who will also regard her highly.

The world is our mirror. Change the image and your change your reality.  The book Reality Transurfing thoroughly covers not only how to manifest, but also all the pitfalls around it.  I personally struggle with pendulums.  I give my energy away to things that don't serve me.  I read new headlines or news stories particularly around politics....or I go on Facebook and form opinions (not of people but of events in my Feed....again a lot of it about news) and then this throws me off.  I waste energy.  I waste time.  None of it is helpful to me.  It simply drains me. 

With that said, I've done some successful manifesting. I manifested money out of the blue when someone needed a place to stay for a while and she paid me to rent a room in the place I'm staying. The principles work.  This doesn't mean that there's no effort required.  You need to take intentional actions and then just assume it'll work out.  If the mirror shows you an undesired result, then there's a belief lurking underneath that needs addressing.  This is not magic, it's basically how the universe works.  It's more akin to a law.  

How does this relate to coaching divorced women?

I took a course called "High Impact Coaching".  The value in the course is how to market myself.  I honestly had no clue.  I have a clue now.  Interestingly, the course itself relies A LOT on manifestation practices and mindset.  The rest of it is about social media and direct messaging and calls.  They have suggested scripts for handling sales calls.  It's what I needed if I seriously wanted to coach AND make money at it. 

Part of the program is figuring out a niche.  They made me refine my "offer" as in, who do I want to help and how do I want to help them.  Since I'm divorced, I thought divorced women could use my help. And this is a group that really needs to learn manifestation techniques.  

I decided not to teach them any of the spirituality.  It's not needed for proper manifestation. It's really about where you focus your energy (your thoughts and emotions) and who you believe yourself to be. The good news is that we can change our self beliefs.

So, this week, I fully intend to DM a lot of people and memorize those sales call scripts so I can start booking a client.  I made some YouTube videos that didn't go far and I figured out why.  I'm not meeting them where they are at.  So, I will focus on stress and anxiety relief.  And then small steps that can make a difference.  They need baby steps because they're sometimes so overwhelmed with getting through the day, they can't think about a "dream life".  So that's my next step on the coaching front.

Thanks for reading!

Hits but no conversions. Site Redesign ongoing! Feeling motivated.

 11/10/25 12:31 am

I am a little overwhelmed sometimes.  I have visitors to my store but no conversions (sales) yet.  I remain undaunted.  The store is still being revamped.  I need to get more test prints of products for live photos. I need to have SEO (search engine optimization) done.

I experimented with advertising.  I get traffic.  It works.  But no sales.  The product I used says "go within" on it, and it's geared for women.  I worry that women might feel the product opens them up for sexual harassment.  I can half hear a man cat calling them offering to "go within".   A re-design is in order.  

The store re-design should make the site more trustworthy.  The shopify AI had several bits of advice on how to make the store more trustworthy.  I also need to do a first time buyer ad campaign of 10% off first order.

I also see I need to up my designs on yoga products.  There's a lot of gorgeous clothes out there with superior design.  I came across a successful POD yoga clothing store, which can help me to see what sells.  My pullovers seem popular (well, they get hits, anyway).  

Funny, my science Hawaiian shirts get the most organic traffic.  If I have to change the store to "Chemist", I will LOL.  I need to expand on this with a DNA shirt.  I also have a Cas9 shirt.  My blot shirt does well too. 

I actually had a few people (like 5) view my blog.  I was surprised.  I thought this wouldn't have a single soul visit this.  People are busy.  I don't know if anyone would be interested in my attempts to work outside the normal system and be out here on a limb on my own.  I think of my former colleagues who are working in industry.  They're focused on the assays they have to run.  They're thinking of the PowerPoints they need to generate.  Or they're thinking about the protein they're purifying or the cells they're culturing. Maybe they have to work on goals or their self reviews.  It's that time of year.  But, I doubt they care about my little effort.  I miss the industry, but I do crave independence and I am working hard now to figure it out, now that I've committed to it. 

On the coaching front, I need to refine my training further.  I understand the concepts of marketing myself, but my YouTube channel hasn't gotten traction at all, but I just started.  I understand that women who are divorced are mostly just scared.  So I'm thinking of focusing on this more.  It's so stressful.  They can't think about a dream life yet.  They're just trying to get through a day. I joined Facebook groups for divorced women.  So, I'm getting a good read on their challenges.  They want to build a new life but its one foot in front of the other.  I'm not sure if any of these women believe in manifestation.  It works, but it's a skill. I need to refine this skill myself.  So, my next video will be about calming and stress relief. 

It took me a while to get going and to commit.  Now I'm on my way to creating what I want.  I know I'll get where I need to go.  I have no doubts.  I'm psyched.  I'm feeling motivated in this moment. I just need to stay on focus and off of social media. 

11/5/25 Scientist enters the ecommerce game - how it started and how it's going!

 Hi internet,

I'm starting a regular blog diary about me, a trained scientist, trying to start an online business for the first time ever!  Seems crazy, right? Below is the link to my store and some background on how I got here....

My store is  www.chemistalchemist.com

For 33 years, I worked in the pharmaceutical/biotech industry as a protein chemist.  I rose to the rank of Director and had my own small group (at it's peak, I had 8 people reporting to me, many Ph.D. scientists).  I loved my career and really enjoyed my job.  I especially loved the people in my group and department.  The industry has been sinking fast in recent years.  It started in 2022 when inflation went up and then interest rates followed.  That's like kryptonite for my industry.  Biopharma is capital intensive so when the costs of capital go up, investors flee.  This was exacerbated by AI.  Once ChatGPT rolled out, everyone with money wanted to invest in the cool, new shiny thing.  My company had once been that cool shiny new thing, and the stock reflected that back in 2021 when it went above $150/share.  It fell below $7 in 2025, along with a lot of my wealth. 😟 Luckily I have a good amount of savings, and I did sell some shares, so I'm not on the verge of homelessness or anything...

I knew there was a chance, given how bad the stock market was, that I'd need to do something else. Back in late 2024, I happened on an article about the Print On Demand business. I was immediately intrigued.  Also last year, I also took a health and wellness coaching class last year.   I was planning!!

I was laid off on January 9th, 2025.  That was one of the hardest weeks of my life.  I loved my group and enjoyed my company.  The thought of leaving them was very painful.  I decided I had to leave the Boston area because living there was too expensive.  Luckily I got a break on rent from my ex-husband and moved to Vermont.

After hurriedly moving (very stressful) and getting out of Dodge as quickly as I coud, I took some time to heal, to think.  I tried looking for a job in industry.  I had one interview.  I had mixed feelings around it.  I sincerely wanted to try something new, and something with flexibility.

I created some products on Printify to sell on Amazon and Etsy.  I quickly discovered the limitations of these market places.  Etsy is easier and more intuitive, but I learned that very few people actually work there LOL 😆  I asked a couple of friends to buy a few products from my Etsy store to test the platform and  the  Etsy algorithm decided that going from 0 sales to two within a day was growth that was too fast and it disabled my account with no recourse.  This is how I figured out that no one actually works there.  There's no phone number, no people to talk to. There's no way to resolve it.  They only employ AI for trivial things. 

Amazon is not intuitive to use.  It's harder to create listings. You can have a listing, and not find it with the search engine, which is weird.  I got frustrated and set it aside.

It should be noted that I was also dealing with a tremendous amount of fear and doubt about doing this. This lasted for months.  I worried about looking foolish if I failed.  I worried that people would negatively judge my product designs.  I worried about entering a crowded product niche.  

My store is called, Chemist Alchemist, because that's a bit of who I am.  I noticed ages ago, my favorite musicians created music that they themselves loved. And the more authentic they were in their expression, the more people related to their songs.  That philosophy always resonated to me.  I unfortunately don't have musical talent, but I can express myself in other ways. If I make products I like, maybe others will like them?  My early designs might seem rather basic, because I'm just learning, but I expect to get better with time. 

For my store name (Chemist Alchemist), my degree is in chemistry, and I worked in science, so it's obvious where the "Chemist" side came from.  Where did the "Alchemist" side come from?  That one is harder to explain.  I'll try to give a brief explanation.  For my entire adult life, I considered myself an agnostic. I never focused on spirituality. Then, that all changed in 2023.  I was shown,  in a profound and deep way. that there is more than the physical world.  I learned  that we can transform and that I had been transforming all along, unbeknownst to me.  I also know, without doubt, that there is something beyond the physical world.  I learned a lot in the process about how things work (about who we really are and why we come here).  That's a topic for another time and place. And this is really all I would like to say about how understood myself to be not just a Chemist, but also an Alchemist, a person who's undergone transformation. 

My store is about how science and spirituality are actually the same continuum.  If cold is the absence of heat, then the physical world can mean the absence of spiritual awareness (spirit is always there, but we forget it's there).  Of course, that's a choice.  Spiritual awareness is another choice.  Chemist Alchemist is the understanding that the material and the spiritual (physical/metaphysical or earth/heaven) are very much connected.  If we focus on the physical only, we tend to become unbalanced and unfulfilled.  So, what do we do in that state?  We distract distract distract.  We sink into our computers,  phones, TV shows, news, politics and pop culture.  I include myself in that and this was my practice for many years.  We may even engage in unhealthful and somewhat destructive behaviors.  

Back to the store..

I'm at the stage where the store is built.  Right now, I am paying someone to redesign it to look more professional.  I'll pay someone to optimize for the search engine (SEO).  I get some organic traffic, but have had no sales as yet.  So my next step is to figure out how to market my store so people can see it.

Once my store was live, I had people pestering me.  I'm always leery of unsolicited emails.  Scammers look for new stores to gain access to the store and your information.  I spoke to one or two of them, but got suspicious.  Now I just block them right away.  I use Fiverr now to pay for services related to my store.  It's the easiest way. 

On the coaching front, I've started a YouTube channel,  to try to reach my target audience.

My coaching business aims to coach divorced women so they become personally empowered and learn how to build their dream lives.  This includes using the principles of manifestation as outlined in the book "Reality Transurfing" It's not the health and wellness genre in which I was trained but the coaching principals still apply.  The channel is www.youtube.com/@chemistalchemist11

So, if you're interested then, stay tuned!